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Hi all I'm wondering what kinds of weaknesses that about yourself that bother you. My weaknesses is that I easily give into sweet talk and I'm also too forgiving when people treat me horrible. I wonder is it bad to be like that or not. What do you guys think?
i care too much sometimes..I'm obsessive about things and worry a lot, like i'll go to sleep but can't cuz my brain is working in overtime..
i used to be like that too, but over the years I've learned not to give in as much, but than again it depends on who's sweet talking you
Having depression. Some times I don't want to get dressed because there is nothing to do especially a the weekend.
I have a lack of self confidence, depression sometimes, and I worry!
lol, King is so forgiving that he goes and posts "hate" board about some girl he has a fight with, that is amazingly forgiving in my opinion. I think a lot of people use the "I'm too forgiving" cliche and think it makes them admireable in some ways, and I've seen people say that and never act forgivingly. There are, I am sure, genuinely forgiving people, but they are a lot fewer than the self claimed bunch.
I have personality traits that can beneit or hinder me, depending on the situation, I avoid conflicts at all costs (in real life at least *grin*), procrastinate, get bored doing a single task or working on a single project for long (in other words, like variety of projects and work much better under pressure), am lazy (aren't we all) and I'm sure I could think of a few more *grin*.
cheers
-B
I procrastinate. I'm sure i'm not the only one out there who does this. not good.
hmm... I procrastinate, I'm lazy and I can be jealous. I hate the last one the most.
i also tend to give in to sweet talkers.
yup procrastination, laziness, i look for the easy way out when i know i should challenge myself. I get jealous, very critical of myself and others..damn i could write a book of my flahs
Hmmm! Lots of things really. My hormonal mood swings, my shyness, my permanent lisp from having to wear five different braces over the course of around 10 years which lead to three years of non-stop bullying when I started Secondary School, so I became very withdrawn and shy as a result and I'm still not too good at shaking it off. I won't even ring people up and speak to them anymore, use Skype or VT, I just prefer to stick to Email, text or
MSN unless I absolutely have to speak to someone over the phone. I fair better if I'm in a face to face situation and I just grit my teeth and get on with it, make myself come out of myself and talk to people like I've been doing it for years. That is in fact my biggest weakness. I wish I could just walk in one of my local pubs, bars or wherever and just go with the flow, meet people, get to know people and really let myself go. I have quite a few close friends but they all live quite a long way from home, so I don't often see them, but if I'm with one of my friends or of course a member of my family, I let them do the talking then eventually, people will get on my wave length then we're all systems go.
Jen.
I cram too much on my plate to the point of not accomplishing any of them. Or focus too hard on one thing until my motivation becomes lacking.
grrr.
e.g.
I wanted my own mud after playing a few for years. So I spent time researching various code bases, how to build, maintain, system requirements only to not get one going after many attempts. Took me 6 months of constant research/reading/trial and errors.
I wanted to program my own game so I did research, research, and more research. Trial and errors ending up with no game.
I wanted to record my own songs so i researched... No full song recorded as yet.
Tried my hands at writing a novel.
Built my own website, until I got hacked deflating me. All that hard work to be destroyed in a day.
*sigh*
I do much better when in a competition. When its on my own, my motivation plummets.
There are tons other different flaws that I'm not too proud of.
procrastination(I'll get around to building my next system, maybe)
laziness(After work I know I really should work on my mud, after a few episodes on the science channel/discovery channel its suddenly time to go to sleep for work tomorrow)
Closedness(I take all my sorrows and problems to another world as I emerce myself in a good fantasy series)
I really do hate my flaws. *sigh* I am human after all.
I fear exposing my weaknesses because people could attack me viciously or otherwise commit character assassination.
I'm too good-looking and charming, and because there just isn't enough time to share it with everybody, I fear I have already failed, therefore making me weak.
Oh, and I don't say 'no' enough (I take on too much of other peoples' issues) and I'm rather less impulsive and more analytical than I should be. Both things I can change though.
hmmmmm. lets see. I'm a procrastinator. I'm lazy. I tend to get angry easy, though I'm working on that. I really don't speak up when I should. But, most of mine r like SKPoet's, minus science discovery channel episodes. Replace work with high school, and I think that's it.
I am way to nice to others.
okay, my weaknesses. i worry, procrastonate, definitely a bad thing. sometimes i think i'm too nice to people. i find it incredibly hard to say no, i also take on waaaay too many of other people's problems, but i like being a friend, so there ya go. also jealousy. i hate that one the most. or if people put me in a difficult situation, i panic easily.
Another weakness of mine is that I tend to get very insecure if I have friends that are also friends with people that I don't get along with and vise versa with people that also don't get along with me in return. I tend to think that those friends will turn on me.
I'm very very unorganized, lazy, overweight, never say my feelings outloud, let people walk all over me, ok shall I go on?
I am glad I do not have the waknesses of many people who I come into contact with.
One of my weaknesses is that I make decisions which afterwards I do not entirely support or oppose.
One weakness that I have is that I take stuff to heart that people say, even though I shouldn't care, and I can give a hundred reasons why I know those people that are saying stuff are jerks, but if I know they're talking about me it just hits me really hard, like, "These people are so much better than me, everybody likes them, what am I doing wrong, and what do they have that I don't?" It makes me feel like an outcast sometimes. And I tend to not say anything about how I feel, and then later on it builds up and I take it out on people who don't deserve it, or I hold grudges for a really long time and push people away when I don't mean to. I also think I analyze things too much, like I make more out of a situation than there really is.
Hedwig said it best. I totally understand her situation. People say that your handicaps shouldn't get in the way, and my blindness doesn't. I was born with no sight, so am totally used to it. My hearing, however, is entirely different. I'm about 90 percent deaf, and I do have a sort of fobia, for lack of a better word, when talking to strangers. I'm afraid that I won't be able to hear them, and that they will not understand that it takes me a while to get used to a person's accent. Even with people I talk to on a daily basis, I don't hear every single word they say, but I usually hear enough that I can piece it together and mentally fill in the gaps for what I didn't hear. Of course, if they talk really fast, they can get a couple of paragraphs ahead of me because I'm still mulling it over in my mind, trying to piece everything together. This has been known to give me the appearance of being slow. It usually takes me some time before I'm ready to talk on the phone to a person I've been corresponding with via the net, and if they get really pushy about it, I withdraw even more. My hearing aids pick up a lot of things, but still, if I'm in a noisy situation, I can't participate in a conversation with anyone who is more than 2 or 3 feet away from me, so I do my very best not to have to be in those situations, which means that I don't go to bars, clubs, and many other places where I could actually meet people.
I do tend to take on other people's worries and problems. If I had all the money that people owe me, I'd be pretty well off now. I don't post this as a trait to be admired. In most of the cases, I knew I'd never see the money before I ever loaned it, but I do believe in giving people a fair chance. As far as procrastination goes, I think we all have been guilty of that at some point or another. I do tend to fall for a good sob story, although I've noticed that I'm getting a little better about that in the past year or so. I am a good friend, and once I think that a good friendship has been established, I'm pretty loyal, and it takes someone doing something really mean before I would consider them to have screwed me over.
I also feel I am far too soft-spoken. Self-advocacy, especially during school, is something I definitely need to work on this coming semester.
i get jealous easily which i don't like and have no clue why, i think i'm too fucking kind hearted at times which results in me being treated like shit.
I get jealous easily too. And if someone's nasty to me, I tend to just bear it and not speak up - I'm kinda shy ... And sometimes I'll be nice and not tell people what I truly think so I don't hurt their feelings, and that's gotten me into some trouble too.
LOL. I also tend to be kinda OCD about some things - if there are papers in a pile, I have to keep them neat and straight and stuff or it bugs me until I fix it. But that doesn't really count.
Scratch
i have trust issues with men espically, been hurt too much. I give much to of myself to others, with otu them giving any back. I am too loyal, in my friendships and other relationships. i am way way way way too logical and analycal. I read between the lines way too much, and this can hurt me in many different cases. I am too blunt, honest, and truthful sometimes. I can be very very hard on myself. And i live too much in the here and now, in reality, not in the lala land. so there you have it!
I'm an introvert. That probably is explanation enough, as society does not prefer or understand the introvert, In a social situation, I am quiet and not prone to just chatter about this and that just to keep the silence away. I'm supposed to understand this as a bad thing, but then again, it's more fun for me to just do my thing and who cares what society thinks in the first place, yes?
That's me too. I'm quiet, especially around people I don't know. It takes me a while before I come out of my shell. I'm just now getting to where I feel comfortable conversing in the pubic quicknotes. I'm starting to learn who people are, so I'm a little less shy than I was, but still... And, no. That was not a typo.
Well, I think we could all probably write novels of our own weakneses, as the mirror of self-scrutiny also tends to magnify. I think the biggest weakness that I could control with more effort is my love of food. I'm not morbidly obese or anything like that, but given that heart problems are in both sides of my family, I really need to be more pro-active.
Lou
I just realize I never mentioned:
It's hard for me to commit to things sometimes.
Oh and I can be a bit lazy...and I get jealous. Well, not so much anymore...
mine match a few of yours:
The biggest thing with me is that I still get way too jealous if my partner is still talking/hanging out with their exes.
I have insecurities with friends meeting other friends of mine and starting their own friendship, (hope that made sense).
I can be way too sensative, though I've come along way to reverse that one over the past few years,
I feel my life can't be complete if i don't find someone to share it with.
Hmmm well glad we can all see these flaws in ourselves because it means we're on the right path!
i got so many weaknesses, lol. i hate my procrastination. god, i relaly need to stop doing for school and stuff. and also, my laziness, lol. hmm, sometiems i hate my competitiveness and how i beat myself over the littlest things, lol
Well, I tend to procrastinate.
I think things threw and read way more into things than I should. in other words, I think first and act much later, this has hurt me several times.
I lack self confidence
and tend to give my self shit over the littlest things.
I lack self confidence as well actually.
Kevin, you are spot on; admitting to one's faults is certainly a big step in the right direction.
I let things bother me to much
I'm always too willing to take the blame
I always come unstuck by believing everyone is as honest as I am
I wish I was a little more critical of people
I wish I wasn't so intense
I wish I could read people better
I wish I was better looking and had more to offer
Well,
I am shy up to the extend of having no friends at all. I could be easily become lazy, easily disapointed, and having insicurities. I know I can be successful in life but I am lack of self confidence. I am afraid to have mistakes, and to be corrected in the front of others.
well I've found that self-confidence does not always come easy but eventually, it comes. (Insert perverted joke here.)
Well, I lose my composure and I lose my temper around my parents a lot, because they just ask uneducated questions and talks for me.
I'd have to say my weaknesses are the depression one in post 3, and also that I care too much about people, and I'm always wanting to help others before I help myself. And I always offer to provide things I really cant, such as paying for things, and trying to help others with money I dont even need to be spending. And I tend to give in too easily too! Also another one is that I sometimes tend to speek my mind, when I should stop myself when I am saying too much. I'm working on that one though! Also my self asteme sucks! But I'm getting better though! And I am shy about certain aspects of myself, and I think that one sets major limits on me!
I have lots of weeknesses.
Depression, lack of confidence, i'm very shy..
perverted joke inserted. hahahaha.
You know I forgot one, I care a little too much about what people say about me.
I don't trust easily and cry too easily. It bugs me that I cry because I was raised in an environment where that was bad. Even though I know it isn't, that still kicks in, smacks me in the face and says "Goddamit, Iyana, you WILL NOT CRY!" I'm not sure whether its good or bad that I don't trust as easily as I did. I think I sort of mourn that because it's part of innocence... whatever that is.
I'm going to go off-topic a bit, but it's an interesting thought. It would be interesting to take all these weaknesses, compile them together, and then come up with the idea of what the ideal person is supposed to be according to the list of weaknesses. If all these things about ourselves are wrong or we do them too much, then we have to figure out what ideal we're shooting for. Yeah, I understand the ideal person will never exist, but still it'd be interesting to just come up with the idea.
Hmmm actually that would be interesting. I think we should wait a bit and let more people talk before coming up with "the ideal person."
But you know, where one person could consider being too forgiving a weakness, another could consider it a strength. Weaknesses are different to every person, so the ideal person according to the list wouldn't be ideal at all. Parts of him or her would be ideal to each of us, but truely, the ideal person exists only within us, for it's different to each of us depending on which traits we see as weaknesses and which we see as strengths.
my weaknesses that frustrates me to no end:
1. taking things way to personal up to the point of being grumpy when people talk about me in a negative way.
2. cramming everything just to get things over with.
3. being to nice and too hard on myself
4. expecting that i should do things perfect.
well that is not really a weakness, although if i do somthing rong, then i get mad.
5. worrying alot
6. find it hard to say no sometimes which makes me a target for many 7. giving in to people easily.
8. being way to emotional to the point of tears
9. getting frustrated easily
10. starting to become forgetful.
disasters
I've seen depression on here twice so far. For me, it's not a weakness, but an illness that must be managed daily.
As for weaknesses though: A lack of self confidence, fear of failure, alternately worrying that I'm to forgiving or not forgiving enough of a person (depending on who said person is), feeling to angry & hateful & not being sure what to do about it (how to fix it), not having enough patience with my sisters, not being understanding enough of others. & that's all I can come up with for now.
my weight. i give in to food's siren song too muuch. am too critical.
That's me too! Way to critical of myself & give in to food way too much for my own good.
well, my weight is my weakness.
i cram soo much stuff in a day that i sometimes loose track of everything unintentionally.
therefore i forget to eat sometimes and act like an old lady with altzheimer's disease.
which i sometimes do is go senile.
Yeah, I'll have to humbbly join the group of procrastinators here. :(
also, i hate the fact taht I really can be easily intimidated sometimes. I mean, how do you proceed to run for our school's student government next year when you can't even tell the current pres. that you like him? :D